My perspective was transformed in just one night. I came home from teaching school (I had a very tough class that year) and my three-year-old sat on my lap and asked me to read a book. I told him I was too tired to read to him. In fact, engaging in any learning activities made me want to cringe. I was completely exhausted with no energy left for the person that mattered most in my life.
Then the light bulb went off, I was giving 100% of my quality time and energy to my students (not by my choice, again, it was a very tough class that year) and I had nothing left for my son. I decided to begin my homeschool journey that particular night. I discussed it with my husband and then submitted my notice to my school the next day, which stated I would not be returning the following school year. All my colleagues were stunned but I guess that mommy instinct took over because this was no longer about me, but now it was about my son.
I was providing half of my family's income (and a young couple with a teacher's salary, you can quickly figure out that we were not financially prepared for me to be at home full-time.) My husband was still in college at night and he worked during the day. We had lots of debt- car payments, school loans, and a mortgage- and zero savings.
But I was bound and determined. My son was my top priority, not my income. The money issue never worried me. That is how I know God was in control because I naturally worry about money. Not a good quality, I know.
And we just made it work. We cut back on everything. No eating out, not even fast food. No cable. No extras, period, until we could recover from a 50% pay cut. I worked part-time during the week at a private school in the afternoons as a curriculum coordinator while my son played with the kids that attended the after-school program (for free). I tutored children on the weekends and my husband worked every part time job he could find, including remodeling and delivering pizzas (on top of working full-time and attending school full-time.)
It was a very busy time, but this time around, it was a good busy. God was faithful and provided. Looking back, we have no regrets. Over the years, we transitioned to having five children and I have not worked outside of the home for over ten years. My son is graduating high school this upcoming school year and we have so many wonderful memories together that I treasure.
I chuckle when people say they are waiting to have children until they can afford them. Well, I don't think I'd ever have any children if I had waited. I still don't think we can afford them. ☺ There would have always been something to take away any extra money that we had. I am so glad that I followed my heart and not my mind, which would have kept me filled with worry and fear. I truly believe that I had to step out in faith to be rewarded with the blessing of being at home with my children.
So why do I homeschool?
The answer is simple. I LOVE teaching and I LOVE my children. When I combine the two, there is nothing else I'd rather be doing.
You can also read My Top Ten Reasons for Homeschooling for a quick laugh.





















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What a beautifulngift youngave to yourself and your children.
Tamara,
I commend you. It takes a lot of faith and courage to step out of "the box" and make a change. It sounds like you did for all the right reasons. You're right - it's not about "me" or "what will my friends/colleagues think?!" It's about our families and our own well-being. I'm glad you've been able to share this time and your talents with your children. :)
Dana
3rd Grade Gridiron
Thank you Ms. Parker and Dana! ☺
I was homeschooled in high school, and it gave me a lot of opportunities that I wouldn't have had otherwise. I was able to participate in community theater, work part-time, take classes at the local junior college (for free, since I was concurrently in high school) and develop important working/studying habits. My mom got a lot of negative feedback for her choice, but I struggled in the traditional class setting, so homeschooling was the best choice for me! Thanks for the post!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I am inspired by your courage, I was just sitting here wondering why I keep teaching when I am overwhelmed and don't get to spend much time with my own kids - Money is the reason!! Your story really ignited a spark of faith in me!!
Amy
That is a wonderful explanation! I commend homeschoolers, even though I am not a homeschooler and I am a public school teacher. I was blessed with the opportunity to teach a little girl in my 4th grade class this year who had been homeschooled until she entered my classroom. She was a phenomenal child.
Such a touching story!I had tears in my eyes,maybe because this is what I want to do but don't have the courage and determination yet!
Lusine
I LOVE your story! It sounds so much like mine:) We struggle to make ends meet and my husband does construction too:) I wouldn't change these precious days for anything!! You cannot put a price tag on this time in life. I am loving it! I can tell by your picture with your son that you do too! I LOVE your blog Tamara! So inspiring:) You are such a great role model.
You inspire me each day. I love your devotion to each of your passions: faith, family, and education.
Cheryl
Wow... what a beautiful story. Thank you for the inspiration. You are a role model for me. Your posts answer some prayers for me. I am glad I found your blog!
I once thought I would never homeschool or be a stay at home mom because I wanted my own identity as a teacher working outside the home. But in the last couple of years God has changed my heart. I honestly don't know how my coworkers that are moms have the energy to do both. I have come to realize that when I have kids I don't want to be a full time teacher. It can be done on one salary and God always provides. Thanks for sharing your story.
Marlene
I Heart Teaching Elementary
Wonderful story Tamara. So many of us forget about ourselves in this profession. It is inspiring and empowering.
The only question that came to mind when I finished reading was... would you go back to the classroom when your kids are grown? Now I know you have a baby girl at home so I know that won't be for a while, but it was thought.
Ms. M
Ms.M's Blog
A Teacher's Plan
All of your comments are so sweet. I never expected such kindness. Thank you!
And Ms. M, I will be almost 60 years old when my little girl goes off to college so I don't know about a full-time job in the classroom BUT I do teach in church classes and I have taught many times in co-op classes for homeschoolers. For instance, I taught geography in a classroom to the primary grades every Friday in my last co-op group. So when I need my group teaching fix, I go ahead and teach in a classroom, just not full-time. And I hope to have lots of grandkids in the future to spoil (and who knows, maybe even teach them someday, too) when my little girl is grown.
I will always love teaching- in a classroom and in my home.♥
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