This Mother's Day I will love more and complain less.
I usually like to write upbeat posts that motivate readers, but thirty minutes ago, I stumbled upon a blog that has me in tears. Not just a couple of tears but streams of tears. This blog quickly stripped away my self-centeredness and made me so appreciative for every facet of parenting- the easy and the difficult times.
Just an hour prior to reading the blog, I was complaining to a friend in an email about how tired I was. My baby was teething last night and was up until 3:30 am and my one-year-old woke up this morning at 7:00 am. With homeschooling my three older children, naps are not an option for me. After reading the blog posted below, my whole perspective changed instantly.
The bond a parent feels with a child is indescribable, and I would not trade being a Mom for anything in the world. One of my greatest annoyances is when people ask me how I can spend all day, every day at home with my children. I'm also told quite frequently "I don't know how you do it," or "My kids would drive me crazy."
To be honest, every day is a challenge and my kids do drive me crazy sometimes BUT I absolutely love spending quality time with them, and I feel very blessed that I am able to do so. God called me to love and nurture my children when I became a mother, and I'm incredibly fortunate that I can be with them throughout each day. Have some people forgotten that a child is one of the greatest blessings from the Lord?
Yet motherhood is tough. There are many sacrifices a mother makes for her children. There is also the constant concern a mother has for her children that doesn't ever seem to go away, even when her children grow older. I strive daily to find comfort in the Lord and completely trust Him and His sovereign plan for each of His children that He graciously chose me to love. This is something that I have to continuously remind myself so worry doesn't consume my daily thoughts.
I cannot imagine any loss being more tragic than losing a child. I have had miscarriages, including a life-threatening ectopic pregnancy that resulted in major surgery with an ovary removed and months of recovery, but these sad events are still no comparison to the pain a parent must feel who has lost a child that has unexpectedly passed away. When you bring your child home from the hospital, you never think of having to plan their funeral in the future. You always assume you will pass first.
I recently read this mother's response to losing a child. "Many people assume that time heals all things but this is not true. This is a wound that will never heal completely. This is an amputation. Just like someone who has lost a leg or a hand- you now have to find a new normal."
To all the mothers who have an empty space in your hearts this Mother's Day, I pray that God fills you with His peace and comfort. Each passing day is one day closer to being reunited with your little one in heaven. I pray you feel His embrace as you regain your strength to keep moving forward.
Make sure you have several tissues before you visit-